UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

Have you ever done all that you can to 'save' someone you loved? Have you ever wanted someone you care about to change, to heal, to grow, to love themselves? To love you? Let's be real, we ALL have been there one way or another. The need or DRIVE to 'INSPIRE' someone we cared about to change. We only want for them to be happy, RIGHT? Well, I have come to understand, for myself anyways, that you cannot, and I repeat cannot, 'Save' anyone, and you cannot make anyone change. They have to want change for themselves, I repeat, THEY have to want change for themselves.

PEOPLE DO THE BEST THEY CAN WITH WHAT THEY KNOW, BASED ON HOW PRESENT, CONSCIOUS, AND AWARE THEY ARE. 

But.. we can LOVE them. And I don't mean, the sort of love that causes us to want them to change, or to heal the shadow parts of themselves. I mean UNCONDITIONAL love. And by that I mean, NO CONDITIONS. And by no means does that mean you become a door mat, you do not even have to be around the person to love them UNCONDITIONALLY. All you have to do IS show up, whether you show up PHYSICALLY, or ENERGETICALLY, UNCONDITIONAL love knows no bounds, knows no obstacle. Send them love, and send them LIGHT. 


We all have those people who are apart of our Journeys, and yes they are there for a reason, but the truth's that, even though we may not understand them, or understand how they treat us, or maybe how they see the world, that's not about us. I repeat, for my own sake, THAT'S NOT ABOUT US. And we cannot take on the world all by ourselves, we have to understand that they too, have a path to follow, and though that path may be very bumpy path, or one you don't want to be on, can you love them anyway? Can you choose to see them for who they really are? When we place Judgement on others, we really place Judgement on ourselves. 

We often say that love UNCONDITIONALLY. I mean, I hear people say those terms a lot, and yet I see those same people, MYSELF INCLUDED, turn around and retreat that 'UNCONDITIONAL LOVE' the moment the present CONDITIONS don't match up to what they wanted.  

Are you even aware of the CONDITIONS you have placed on your RELATIONSHIPS, on the people you love the most, or the ones that are apart of your path whether you want them to be or not? I know that for me, I have become very aware of the CONDITIONS I have placed not only on others, but on myself as well. However, yesterday, I had a total wake up call, or as Oprah would say an 'Aha' moment. I had Robert Holden's awesome Hay House RADIO show on,  and as he talked to a very lovely woman, he spoke the most BEAUTIFUL words, and I knew they would change my outlook from here on out. 

'GOD HAS NEVER TRIED TO HEAL ME, HE ONLY LOVES ME'

'GOD DOESN'T SAY, TODAY I AM GOING TO HEAL YOU, HE SIMPLY LOVES ME'

HOW BEAUTIFUL IS THAT? Honestly? He only loves me. I heard those words and started to reflect on the CONDITIONS I have placed on those closest to me, my parents, etc, and how much I (ego) wanted to save them. How much I (ego) needed them to change, needed them to be on the same path as me, to understand me, to love themselves, to love me. Granted, these all sound pretty normal, but that's not my work, that's not for me to carry on my shoulders, or on my heart. All I need to do IS love them, love everyone, UNCONDITIONALLY, and only then can I love myself the same. If I choose to constantly place CONDITIONS on others, and choose to see what's 'wrong', I deny myself the very love I had yearned for all along, I deny myself the chance to see past the ILLUSION that we are separate. 

And don't get me wrong, to actually show up, and love someone UNCONDITIONALLY, well that's one hard lesson and maybe the most BEAUTIFUL and PROFOUND one we can learn. No matter how much someone may push your buttons, send them love. No matter how dark the path they have walked, send them LIGHT. No matter hurt you feel, send them love. Send them FORGIVENESS. Send them hope. To love someone UNCONDITIONALLY says to them, yourself, and to the world, 'You are perfect the way you are, because you are DIVINE love. You are enough, and you are loved, no matter what, and I'll show up for not only myself, but for you, because we are love.' 

Are we not all on the same Journey anyways, one way or another? Let's choose to love one another. Let's choose to love ourselves enough to let go and release all of those CONDITIONS we place on ourselves and on everyone else. They create walls, they create separateness, they create ILLUSION. Even when you feel you have to walk away from someone for your own WELL BEING, and chances are one day you'll have too. So walk away, head held HIGH, and pebbles of love at your feet for those who may one day need them.